Money and fame can be a blessing and a curse, and world-famous Jonas Brothers singer and United States citizen Joe Jonas and Game of Thrones actress and British citizen Sophie Turner are learning this the painful way. For years they have been media darlings, the public soaking up their beauty, fashion, romance, and celebrating the births of two young children. Now, since early September, we get to see their impending divorce and legal battles over who gets custody of the children. I’m sure now that they wish they weren’t so famous.

This celebrity divorce, just like all the others, provokes gossip-filled articles about divorce proceedings and any unfortunate legal disagreement, and is all over the Internet, talking about who did what to whom. Whether you’re talking about any celebrity couple, like actress Turner and Little Bird singer, Jonas, Hugh Jackman and Deborah Lee-Furness, or anyone else, I can tell you one thing for sure about all of them, we have no idea what happened or what’s going on. Anything you see on social media is a rumor, conjecture, worthless information, and page and space-filling, click-baiting garbage. The only facts we know are the court documents that have been filed, but again, just because something is filed doesn’t mean the information contained within it is true. Our legal system is a cat-and-mouse game meant to wear people down so they will stop fighting for the justice they deserve. I implore everyone to regard the speculative narratives about all celebrities as the garbage it is, but still, as a Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in marriage crisis and the divorce decision, I see where we can all learn a few things from other people’s breakup stories, and that’s why I’m here.

Here are a few takeaways from my point of view:

1. No one knows what’s happening in any couple’s divorce. I work with couples who divorce and don’t even understand it entirely themselves. Stay out of the why and what for discussions and offer emotional support to your parting friends. The kind where you can listen to someone in obsessed anguish talk about the same thing 215 times in the morning and then go on to do the same in the…