If You Want to Better Understand Women, Read This

Why men don’t understand them, and ways they still can.

Men have joked about not understanding women for a long time. When I talk to my fellow women about this, we laugh, because our point of view is that we’re very easy to understand. Maybe the simple truths lie somewhere in between, but there is research that answers questions about gender differences and what women want in romantic relationships, and most people are probably able to guess what a few of them are. As most men know, women don’t usually have difficulty telling men what they want and need, so is there a communication gap between the genders? Are we from different worlds? Are the things women asking of their men too much, or are men simply unable to give a woman what she asks for emotionally? Do we have thought processes that are so different from one another that women should never expect to get what they really want and need?

I’m about to tell men what they need to know to understand women, but my question is, once you know what it is, are you up to the task? A lot of women will tell you that we don’t think we ask for a lot, but I’m hoping men will tell me what they think. If we ask too much, what are you able to do that is listed below? I’ve spoken to enough men to know that most have good intentions for their relationships, but women will tell you few are consistent with following through. Guys, please help us understand where it all falls to pieces.

It’s no accident that erotica for women is found in grocery store romance novels and books like, Nicholas Spark’s, The Notebook. Mention this to any female friend and they will nod their head vigorously. In each case, the male lead passionately loves his woman and demonstrates it repeatedly and over time in all sorts of extreme scenarios. No matter what calamities fall in the story, the male hero never waivers. He will fight a dragon, swim seven seas, climbs mountains, all to protect or return to the woman he loves. In a romance novel you won’t see the heroine begging her man to put down his phone and come talk to her. She doesn’t need to, because his focus is on her and doing things that make her feel happy and desired. We know this is pure fantasy, but can’t men take the indirect messages of all that and understand that what turns a woman on in literature, literally turns…