Huffington Post Divorce Page Asks Doctor Becky What She Thinks About …

I  love it when Brittany Wong, one of the editors from the Huffington Post Divorce section emails and asks for my opinion on whatever subject she is writing a story about. Recently she asked me to answer the following question:  What every therapist wishes you would stop doing.  I had to laugh because that list could be endless!! Anyway, here is the article that resulted from that: 8 Things Your Therapist is Thinking But Not Telling You.

P.S. I almost always tell clients what I am really thinking … the only time I don’t is when I am dealing with an extremely emotionally sensitive person who could not handle the truth about what I am thinking. In those cases the truth is going to come, but in time. Even then, once I start on that path, many get angry and won’t return to therapy – every therapist knows about this type of client, and it really doesn’t bother us when they move on because they are very difficult people to work with, and often do not do well or improve much in the therapy arena. Many go to therapist-after-therapist searching for the one who will tell them something different. If the therapist is good at what they do, he or she will figure out what they’re dealing and once again disappoint the client by telling them things that are painful to hear. The truth can be very painful, but healthy people will accept and often deal with it, as hard as it is. The unhealthy client blames the therapist and go shopping for another.