About Dr. Becky Whetstone

My work is grounded in proven relationship models and years of experience helping people navigate the edge of divorce – with clarity, structure, and honesty. Because graduate school doesn’t prepare marriage and family therapists to help couples in a marriage crisis, I created a research-based intervention called Marriage Crisis Management to fill the void. My first book, I (Think) I want Out, is for individuals and therapists who want to learn everything they need to know about marriages on the brink.

I refrain from the once-a-week marriage therapy model because couples often have something come up, drop out, or get to a point of being 5 percent better and think that’s enough, only to return to therapy again and again. I created the initial 90-minute consultation, so I may assess couples, tell them what’s going on, and what I think they need, and, if we’re a fit and they are good candidates for intensive, individualized work,  I’ll encourage them to enter into one of my intensive marriage programs designed to give them maximum potential to reach their goals.

To succeed in therapy, all I need are two reasonable people who are willing to approach the process humbly and take responsibility for their part in a marriage that isn’t working. My goal is to be the kind of marriage therapist and coach whom I always needed, but could never find.

I don’t offer quick fixes, vague advice, or cookie-cutter versions of marriage therapy. I help you understand what is happening and what to do next. You will have to work to get the kind of relationship you would like to have. I will show you the way. 

I am licensed in Arkansas and Texas, and work virtually as a life coach throughout the United States and the world.

If your relationship is struggling, don’t wait until it’s too late. As I often say, “If not now, when? If not this, what?”