About Dr. Becky Whetstone
WHO I AM
I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
I specialize in helping individuals and couples with life and marriage struggles, marriage crisis management, and trauma-informed therapy.
I consider myself a teacher, therapist, writer, and coach dedicated to helping couples reach their personal and relationship goals.
I completed my undergraduate studies at George Washington University in Washington, D.C., where I majored in journalism. I attended graduate school at St. Mary’s University in San Antonio and earned my doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy in 2006. Since then, I have attended numerous training sessions with some of the world’s leading experts to further my education and knowledge.
Since I began as a therapist, I have seen thousands of couples over 20-plus years, written hundreds of articles about relationships, and authored the books I (Think) I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage, available at all bookstores, and The Congressman’s Wife: A Political Memoir, now in the publishing process, and am writing a third book about the basic things every human needs to know to have healthy relationships.
My work is grounded in proven relationship models and years of experience helping people navigate the edge of divorce – with clarity, structure, and honesty. Because graduate school doesn’t prepare marriage and family therapists to help couples in a marriage crisis, I created a research-based intervention called Marriage Crisis Management to fill the void. My first book, I (Think) I want Out, is for individuals and therapists who want to learn everything they need to know about marriages on the brink.
I refrain from the once-a-week marriage therapy model because couples often have something come up, drop out, or get to a point of being 5 percent better and think that’s enough, only to return to therapy again and again. I created the initial 90-minute consultation, so I may assess individuals and couples, tell them what’s going on and what I think they need, and, if we’re a fit and they are good candidates for intensive, individualized work, I’ll encourage them to enter into one of my intensive marriage programs designed to give them maximum potential to reach their goals.
To succeed in therapy, all I need are two reasonable people who are willing to approach the process humbly and take responsibility for their part in a marriage that isn’t working. My goal is to be the kind of marriage therapist and coach whom I always needed, but could never find.
I don’t offer quick fixes, vague advice, or cookie-cutter versions of marriage therapy. I help you understand what is happening and what to do next. You will have to work to build the kind of relationship you want. I will show you the way.
I am licensed in Arkansas and Texas, and work virtually as a life coach throughout the United States and the world.
If your relationship is struggling, don’t wait until it’s too late. As I often say, “If not now, when? If not this, what?”
Start with a Marriage Crisis Consultation.
Whether you come alone or with your partner, get clarity, direction, and move forward.